Monday, March 19, 2012

Your Boss Could Be A Psychopath

Greg Smith’s Resignation: Are Wall Street Traders Psychopathic?
By MAIA SZALAVITZ 

March 15, 2012
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When a Goldman Sachs executive director, Greg Smith, resigned on Wednesday, he left in his wake a scathing op-ed in the New York Times excoriating the firm for its greedy values. The op-ed shook Goldman “like a bomb,” according to another story on the front page the following day. Smith claimed that Goldman’s current leadership had let the firm’s values disintegrate. Where once the Goldman culture encouraged employees to serve their clients for mutual benefit, now, Smith said, the driving force was rapacious avarice. The firm promotes “ripping their clients off,” he wrote.
To the average 99-percenter, this hardly seems like a revelation. Unethical behavior and Wall Street go hand in hand — especially at the top, right? Goldman supporters might say this perspective reflects sheer jealousy and resentment; however, a growing body of research suggests that there’s more to it than that.
One 2010 study looked directly at the prevalence of psychopathic traits in a sample of 203 executives at seven companies who had been chosen for their leadership potential to participate in additional management training. (The researchers did not reveal the nature of the businesses that employed the managers, so the results here don’t apply only to financial firms.)
Just over 5% of the trainees in the study met the full criteria for psychopathy — a rate five times higher than that seen in general public. Many of those who qualified were already in high-level senior management positions. So, the snakes are indeed overrepresented at the top.
Psychopathic traits include being highly manipulative and callous, lacking empathy and remorse, having little concern about consequences, being willing to use deceit or threats to get what you want and caring little for others except in terms of what you can get from them. Although the stereotype of a psychopath is a serial killer, they are actually more likely to be con artists or shady businesspeople.
While no available research includes only financial firms, it’s not implausible to think that those whose primary values are materialistic and power-driven would be especially attracted to the business that currently fuels many of America’s biggest fortunes. Indeed, a psychologist whose practice is focused on Wall Street recently told [paywall]CFA magazine that he thinks that, at minimum, 10% of workers in financial services are outright psychopaths.
Like other personality traits and disorders, however, psychopathy lies on a spectrum. As with autism and schizophrenia, there are far more people who have related traits that do not cause disability than there are those with the full conditions themselves. In fact, in the 2010 study of managers, 4% of executives were found to score abnormally high on psychopathic traits, but not over the cutoff point that defines psychopathy.
As Dr. Ronald Schouten, who is writing a book about people who are psychopathic but don’t quite meet the full criteria, put it on the Harvard Business Review blog:
Psychopathy is mistakenly regarded as an all or nothing affair: you either are a psychopath or you aren’t. If that were the case, saying that 10% of people on Wall Street are psychopaths could actually be somewhat comforting, since it implies that the remaining 90% are not and so shouldn’t cause us any concern.
That yes-or-no approach dangerously ignores the fact that psychopathic behavior exists on a continuum. A great deal of damage can be done by individuals who fall in between folks who are “normal” and true psychopaths. These are individuals who would never be diagnosed as a psychopath, but whose behavior to varying degrees can be just as deceptive, dangerous, and remorseless as that of a full-blown psychopath.
And unfortunately, there’s even more reason for concern than this. Additional research suggests that rich people in general tend to behave less ethically than those who are not at the top of the financial heap. Several studies have found that wealthy people are typically less empathetic than poor people, both in terms of being able to read other people’s emotions and in terms of sharing or caring for others.
In a recent set of experiments, researchers observed drivers at an intersection and found that people driving fancy cars — a stand-in for high economic status — were more likely than those driving beaters to cut off other drivers and to fail to stop for pedestrians at crosswalks. The researchers also found in subsequent experiments that wealthier people were more likely to cheat at a gambling game and to take candy that would otherwise be given to children.
The same research revealed that unethical behavior wasn’t linked directly to being wealthy but rather to how much people believed that greed was good — a view that correlated highly with wealth. But even poor people behaved just as badly as the rich when they were primed to believe that selfish, greedy behavior was acceptable. Indeed, according to some research, just being in the physical presence of visible wealth reduces sharing. And, of course, simply working in a financial district is likely to provide an abundance of such cues.
All of this suggests that Wall Street offers a perfect storm of an environment that is not only likely to attract psychopaths and to promote them to the top, but also to encourage them to behave in antisocial ways. There are many exceptions to the rule, of course, and these studies, which only hint at tendencies, shouldn’t be seen as condemning everyone in finance. But the findings do raise troubling questions.
Smith claims that Goldman Sachs previously went to great lengths to create a culture in which service to the client was the highest value. The overall idea was to make money, certainly, but in a mutually beneficial way. Now, he says:
These days, the most common question I get from junior analysts about derivatives is, “How much money did we make off the client?” It bothers me every time I hear it, because it is a clear reflection of what they are observing from their leaders about the way they should behave. Now project 10 years into the future: You don’t have to be a rocket scientist to figure out that the junior analyst sitting quietly in the corner of the room hearing about “muppets” [a derogatory term for clients], “ripping eyeballs out” and “getting paid” doesn’t exactly turn into a model citizen.
The thing about psychopathic values is that they’re contagious. We pick up the values of our leaders and often mirror their behavior. But determining what to do about it is a lot harder than making the diagnosis.
Maia Szalavitz is a health writer at TIME.com. Find her on Twitter at @maiasz. You can also continue the discussion on TIME Healthland’s Facebook page and on Twitter at @TIMEHealthland.

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Friday, March 9, 2012

Positive: Left Phone With Me

This is the first of what I hope will be an ongoing positive things to replace negative self talk.

Today was a good day with Divya and E. We went to the Merritt Island Mall so that E could ride the train. When they went on the ride, Divya left her phone with me. I could have looked at her texts or pictures or downloaded emails. I didn't. I thought abut it for a quick second. but it seemed pretty clear that she must not have been worried about leaving her phone because with a person like me...or to put it plainly...she doesn't have anything to hide.

She left her phone with me. She trusted me. She doesn't have anything to hide. I didn't check. I only had a passing thought to check. It all felt good. Now I have a good memory with Divya and E.

Thursday, March 8, 2012

Stop Feeling Guilty


Monkey Mind Gone Wild! (Exchanging "Could" for "Should")

Perhaps you've heard of monkey mind. It's an ancient Buddhist term meaning, "unsettled, restless, and uncontrollable." In other words, your mind jumps all over the place, usually to your own detriment. Sometimes I have so much non-stop activity in my head that it feels like there's a whole troop of monkeys swinging to and fro in my head.
Unfortunately, this is not a new challenge for me. In my twenties, I spent two and a half years in a Zen Buddhist monastery (meditating up to 16 hours a day) trying to slow down the incessant chatter, but I found it nearly impossible.
I've decided that if I can't stop it, then maybe there's value in examining, understanding, and maybe even directing those primates.
Examining my monkey mind has made me aware that a good percentage of the chatter has to do with "should." Here are some examples of my thoughts from just the last hour:
"I eat too fast, I shouldn't eat so fast."
"I shouldn't be playing solitaire, I should be working. This is a waste of time."
"My e-mails are piling up, I should answer them more quickly."
Any time we use the word "should" we are, on some level, feeling guilty... and avoiding taking responsibility for our actions. For example, regarding my pile of e-mails, if I made them a top priority I could answer them in a timely manner, but the truth is I'm choosing not to at this time. A powerful stand in life is to replace "should" with "could." For example: "I could answer all those e-mails, but I choose not to at this time."
"Should" implies guilt.
"Could" implies responsibility.
Here's an exercise I do with my "shoulds." This often works miracles for me, and it may be valuable for you too.
  • What are your "shoulds"? List them.
  • After each item on your list, ask yourself, "If someone paid me a million dollars, would I do it?"

For example, maybe you keep thinking that you should clean the garage, but you've put it off for two years, and you're feeling guilty about it all the while. However, if someone paid you a million dollars, I bet you'd be cleaning your garage (and the neighbor's garage too) before you could snap your fingers. So, the truth is that you could clean your garage, you are just choosing not to at this time.
When I find myself thinking about "what I should do," I turn it into "what I could do, put prefer not to at this time." For example:
  • I could eat slower, but I choose not to at this time. I'm a passionate eater!
  • I could do my work now, but I choose not to. I choose to play Solitaire instead... and I love it!
  • And, I could answer my e-mails, but I choose not to at this time. I'll answer them when it feels like joy instead of drudgery.
Changing your thoughts can empower you and help you step forward with increased confidence and assuredness. Plus, the more adept you become at releasing the guilt of "should," the more likely your monkey mind will quiet to a gentle hum, rather than the chatter of a raging troop of monkeys.
Wishing you well on your journey to taming your monkey mind!
Denise Linn

Wednesday, March 7, 2012

Dilbert Paranoid


Angel of March is Trust


Inspirational Message

Move from a place of knowing within you rather than as a result of adaptation to outer experience. Let go of you assumptions and need to control life's creative process.
It does not matter what spiritual path you’re on, an ultimate sense of peace comes down to one question: Can you let go of the need to control your life, and trust there is a benevolent force guiding all that ever has, is, and will happen?
 
Trust is the soul's way of attuning to a fundamental law of reality. There is a deep rhythm that moves through all life that cannot be controlled by our will. When trust informs our experience, it allows our psyche to relax and our soul to be at peace with our situation. We can rest in unquestioned confidence that the universe provides, that we have and will receive what we really need. In fact, often beyond what we alone are even capable of imagining.
 
When we have a lot of basic trust, we are courageous and take risks. We don't suppress our competencies. We engage in life wholeheartedly, doing what feels appropriate with the confidence that it will work out. Life becomes a story of creation not an obstacle course.
 
Without basic trust, we tend to react to what arises in accordance with our conditioning, wanting our life to go one way or another. We cling to predetermined assumptions and outcomes. We become tense and contracted and do all we can to manipulate the circumstances to fit with our desires.
 
Here is a suggestion for changing the automatic internal response to external signals. When a traffic light turns yellow and there is a safe distance to stop before it turns red, what do you tend to do? Do you accelerate to 'make it through'?  If so, this is a metaphor for what happens inside when our yellow worry light goes off — we accelerate; try harder, move faster, do more, all stress responses to our conditioning.  Trust is the ability to stop and wait for the green light to signal the time to move forward again.
 
Why not, for the month of March, practice putting on the brakes when the light is yellow and taking that moment to pause and breathe in trust and the deeper rhythm of life while waiting for the green light to again signal you to go.
 
May Trust increase your capacity for loving thoughts and kind actions.
We hope the Angels continue to inspire your life.

February's Angel was Support


Inspirational Message

Stay connected and let others in. Widen your channel of giving and receiving. Reach out with encouragement and be versatile and timely in your resourcefulness.
 
Support is often very subjective and can be confusing. How do you offer support, what do you give your energy to, what is for the highest, and how do you know what is best for yourself and others?
 
True support has two distinct aspects intertwined; love through the expression of gentleness and truth in the expression of realness. When we love without truth, we relate to others from the surface of ourselves, often in order not to make 'waves'. On the other hand, when we only relate from truth it tends to create a feeling of distance tainted with judgment and limitation.
 
Weaving gentleness and realness together brings about balance in our lives with others. Sometimes support calls for loving someone in a way that gives them what they feel they need…empathy, help, affection, or affirmation. Sometimes support needs to be for who they are inside as a soul and takes the form of confronting unconscious behavior, setting limits, saying no, or requiring accountability for words or actions.
 
It is not always easy to make the distinction between these two currents of support and to bring about healing. In the end, our capacity to express gentleness and realness and be fully ourselves rests 'soul-ly' within our commitment to what we feel life is about and what we value.
 
Finding ways to balance these two strands within ourselves with the same gentleness and realness, reveals and brings a deeper sense of authenticity to our actions. This ultimately supports our own inner nature with what it needs to flourish.
 
May your heart, mind, and actions be filled with gentle authentic support. We hope the Angels continue to inspire your life.

Secret Quote Joy Attracts More Joy

From The Secret Daily Teachings
Whatever feelings you have within you are attracting your tomorrow.
Worry attracts more worry. Anxiety attracts more anxiety. Unhappiness attracts more unhappiness. Dissatisfaction attracts more dissatisfaction.
AND . . .
Joy attracts more joy. Happiness attracts more happiness. Peace attracts more peace. Gratitude attracts more gratitude. Kindness attracts more kindness. Love attracts more love.
Your job is an inside one. To change your world, all you have to do is change the way you feel inside. How easy is that?

Secret Quote Joy Attracts More Joy

From The Secret Daily Teachings
Whatever feelings you have within you are attracting your tomorrow.
Worry attracts more worry. Anxiety attracts more anxiety. Unhappiness attracts more unhappiness. Dissatisfaction attracts more dissatisfaction.
AND . . .
Joy attracts more joy. Happiness attracts more happiness. Peace attracts more peace. Gratitude attracts more gratitude. Kindness attracts more kindness. Love attracts more love.
Your job is an inside one. To change your world, all you have to do is change the way you feel inside. How easy is that?

Tuesday, March 6, 2012

A Little Different

As a kid I was always a little different. I didn't play with normal girl toys or in a normal girl way. I was made fun of and I was different. I never really did fit in.

The one doll that I remember having was called Baby Go Bye By and I loved it because she had a cool VW Bug car. I played with the car more than the doll.


I didn't play with Barbies. I had Johnny West collection.


I had an Evel Knievel and his motor cycle.


I had chemistry sets and electronic sets with diodes and such.
I played with a board game about the civil war: 


I liked to walk around with a corn cob pipe hanging out of my mouth. 

Generally, you can see that I wasn't a "normal" girl. Anyway, I saw this article and found it to be so enlightening for me. 

Gender non-conformity increases kids' risk of abuse

By Michelle Healy, USA TODAY 

Posted 2/20/2012 12:01 AM | Updated 2/20/2012 11:10 AM
Children whose activity choices, interests and pretend play don't conform to expected gender roles face an increased risk of abuse and future trauma, a new study finds.
  • The increased risk for non-conforming kids vs. conforming kids was similar in both sexes for physical and psychological abuse.
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    The increased risk for non-conforming kids vs. conforming kids was similar in both sexes for physical and psychological abuse.

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The increased risk for non-conforming kids vs. conforming kids was similar in both sexes for physical and psychological abuse

One in 10 kids display gender non-conformity before age 11 and, on average, are more likely to experience physical, psychological and sexual abuse and experience post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) by early adulthood, says the study of nearly 9,000 young adults published online Monday in Pediatrics.
The abuse was perpetrated mostly by parents or other adults in the home, says lead study author Andrea Roberts, a research associate in the department of society, human development and health at the Harvard School of Public Health.
The study focused on behaviors in childhood before age 11. At that stage, children often "exhibit a wide variety of behaviors that mean nothing about their future sexual preferences," Roberts says. She notes that 85% of gender-non-conforming children in the study were heterosexual in adulthood. In childhood, however, those who were not "extremely typical in their gender expression" faced "harmful discrimination and intolerance that has a lasting impact."
The childhood behaviors were culled from questionnaires completed by a sample of adults ages 17 to 27 of all sexual orientations enrolled in the study. Respondents were asked in 2005 to recall their childhood experiences, including favorite toys and games, whether they took male or female roles in pretend play, and media characters they imitated and admired.
They also were asked about physical, sexual or emotional abuse they experienced and were screened for PTSD in 2007.
The increased risk for non-conforming kids vs. conforming kids was similar in both sexes for physical and psychological abuse. For sexual abuse, non-conforming girls were at 60% greater risk than conforming girls, but non-conforming boys were at nearly three times greater risk compared with conforming boys.
Rates of PTSD were almost twice as high among young adults who were gender non-conforming as kids than among those who were not. PTSD has been linked to risky behavior such as engaging in unprotected sex and to physical symptoms such as cardiovascular problems and chronic pain, according to the study.
More research is needed to understand why gender-non-conforming kids experience greater risk of abuse, says Roberts. Parents who are uncomfortable with or feel negative toward a child who exhibits gender non-conformity "may have the idea, 'If I force him not to be that way, he won't be like that as an adult.' "